Advice from real brides

DO NOT EXPECT WHAT YOU SEE IN THE MOVIES!!! I am not saying that to make sex sound mechanical and a chore. I am saying this so that you have realistic expectations. Expect to enjoy it. Expect for it to be special. BUT it's not fair to expect your hubby or wife to formulate all sorts of acrobatic positions that send you into orbit. Grow together; get books that give you practical and visual advice, set the mood with music and candles, and agree how often you will make love as a guideline so that no one is disappointed. Oooohhh and if you have never waxed, stop being a chicken and get that sorted! Trust me, you will feel incredibly sexy.

On my bridal shower I was given a wonderful piece of advice; 'not everything requires a board meeting'. We have been blessed with a unique ability to concentrate on the details; the sock that missed the laundry basket, the plate that didn't make its way to the sink, the tone of voice when they answered the phone. This nature is a great gift however; it can cause the lovely logical man you married to turn into a raging mess. Select your arguments very wisely.

Susan writes a regular blog of her experiences of married life, follow her journey - Forevernewlywed.blogspot.com

This is something I’m still trying to get used to (The time I wrote this I’ve been married just 5 weeks)... It is so easy to fall into that routine of getting home after work and just putting on some old comfy clothes, until one day it clicked that dressing like that completely turned my mind off sex. So I decided to make an effort to the clothes I wear when I’m at home, things like shorts and vests (comfortable but still sexy), making sure I wear sexy undies to bed especially on weekends. Also, couples need to realise that all the naughty fun you had before you got married can still be carried into marriage. Things like giving each other full body massage in the sitting room with candles, etc.

A lot will happen each day that will make you upset or angry; things like wanting to watch different TV programs, choosing between what you want to cook and what he wants you to cook... the main lesson here is COMPROMISE. You can’t argue over every issue that crops up, always remember that you are both 2 individual people that have come together as one, so it takes time to get yourselves into a flow and pattern that works best for you.